Lying can impede your ability to read other people

Lying can impede your ability to read other people

We all tell those little white lies every now and again, don’t we? 

Many people say that ‘what someone doesn’t know won’t hurt them’ and yes, there are often times when refraining from telling someone the whole story may be better than being blatantly honest with them. However, you do have to possess an incredible memory to be a really good liar, mostly because lies are easier to forget than the truth, and it’s not easy remembering who you told what to and when. 

A recent article by The British Psychology Society reveals how lying to others seems to directly reduce the ability to read others emotions. So, what happens when someone lies? Is there an element of both self-deception and other-deception? Do liars believe their own lies or are they using words solely for their own personal gain? In considering these questions based on the research, I’ve been wondering if, when we lie, we sub-consciously turn inward on ourselves as a means of self-defence against a reciprocal lie or an accusation that needs justifying. This could potentially be were our emotional & social intelligence begins to break down, reducing our ability to read the behaviour or intent of the other as we are so focussed on our own defensive self-perception? 

Maybe this is something worth considering. The logical double-effect that lying has on others, both in how we treat them when we lie & the trust that we may potentially lose when our lie is suspected or found out by others. But, it may also hamper our own ability to socially and emotional bond with those around us, hindering one of those basic mechanisms that encourages mental wellness – engagement and contentment in relationships and community. 

What a tangled web we weave, when we practice to deceive.

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